Take an honest look at your life……..

This time of year is especially hard for me, I lost my mother on Christmas Day suddenly from H1N1. There was no time to say goodbye or even tell her things I wanted to. So now that I have your attention, my point is this.

I know that we all live our lives on high-speed and just kind of go through the motions. With that said, after losing my mother suddenly I took a new look at life. It opened my eyes up to a lot of things that you know but they tend to get lost in the mix.

Take an honest look at your life and ask yourself are you truly happy? Are you where you want to be in your life? If the answer is no then now is the time to take a look and figure out what to do to change that. We all want things or we all have things, but those “things” don’t make you happy. It is has been burned in our brains that we all have to have more. When really all we need is what makes us “Truly “ happy.  Whatever it may be.

The past week there has been a lot of opinions flying on here. This is good, we all have the God-given right to voice them. We are all adults and should be able to go back and forth like adults, because just once you may say something that changes the way that someone originally thought of something. So don’t think that if you don’t agree that you shouldn’t voice your opinion.  The best way to describe that is that sometimes it’s better to agree to disagree.

Life is way to short and you need to live everyday as if it were going to be your last. I know that has been said over and over, but it couldn’t be more true. Remember to tell the ones you love, that you love them. Don’t ever think that you could do it later. Later may be too late.

So take life by the horns and make it the best that you can. The only person that can make you happy is you!

Life is hard and we all know this but life is what we make of it. So as you gather around this holiday season with family and friends running from here to there. Just remember that life is short. Next year just might not be.

We are each the person we are today because of our past, don’t live in the past just take the past and learn from it and move forward.

“The Purpose of Life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer richer experience,” Eleanor Roosevelt

Thanks for taking the time to read this. I appreciate everyone who is a part of this blog. I am thankful for being able to do something everyday of my life that truly makes me happy!

Post a comment I want to hear from everyone about their thoughts on this.


Have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!


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8 thoughts on “Take an honest look at your life……..

  1. Cullan,
    Thanks for reading and sharing your story.
    My mother was my best friend and I know that everyone always says it gets easier. Well I am not to sure about that. To me it’s not , It never will be.
    I am sorry about all of the hell that you had to endure, and I am sure that most people have no idea. It’s amazing at how just certain things in one’s life that happen can change you as a person forever.
    I understand where you are coming from saying that the wreck was the best thing that happened, because it changes your life, and you entire being.
    I appreciate you sharing and I wish you the best on any adventure you chose in life.

  2. Cyberthrasher, This is what my thoughts are. The biggest step is realizing that there is something “off”, now that you have realized that and accept it. You need to take a step back and look at things and it will come to you. My mother always told me “Everything happens for a reason, good or bad, and we may never know the reason, but there is a reason”
    It has nothing to do with being a “Chickenshit” as you say it is human nature to be cautious when it comes to being able to provide for our family. That is something that has been born into each person. Sit down and take that honest look at your life and what you would like to do to change it and start each day with the mindset that is what you are doing. It isn’t always something that happens in a blink of an eye, and sometimes we have to just let things happen. Hard as that is sometimes we have to just let what is “Supposed” to be happen. We all have a purpose on this earth, and sometimes it is not always known to us what that is.
    One day at a time. Don’t try to live ahead of yourself because you will miss some of the best stuff.
    Thanks for sharing and thanks for reading!

  3. Bob, I am glad that the post helped you. I t was one of “those” days for me and I just felt that it was something that needed to be said for people to read. Thank you for reading and posting.
    Have a great Holiday!

  4. Kerri,

    Loosing a parent, one that was close to you, is always a tough thing to go through. I’m sorry for your loss and hope you are able to cope with the pain. I lost my father about 8 years ago and just like you I started to look at things very differently. It was Christmas day when we first had to rush him to the emergency room, it was the start of 6 months of constant doctor visits and sudden trips to the E.R. At the time of his death I was only 20 and had to grow up fast. I remember what an older friend said to me days after the funeral, “I guess you’re the man of the house now”. That simple statement made my whole thought process change. I no longer worried about parties, getting drunk, or even getting laid. I could not even sit through college classes anymore. I felt worthless and that there should be more to life than all of this. I can recall walking to class in a massive formation of douchbaggery and thinking to myself “what the hell am I doing here?”.

    I was already a reservist in the military but I decided I needed to pull the trigger on a life choice and go on an active duty contract. It was the best move I ever made. I met some great people, did some cool shit and saw things I never would have before. I can remember the first time someone wrapped their arms around me thanking me for saving their life….it was the biggest rush I had ever felt, more than any drug could do.

    “We are each the person we are today because of our past, don’t live in the past just take the past and learn from it and move forward.” You could not be more right about this. About 4 years ago I was involved in a very nasty motorcycle wreck. I broke my pelvis and was temporarily paralyzed. I spent a few days in ICU, a few more in post op, 3 months on crutches and 5 more in physical therapy. I had to learn how to walk and run again and my unit was talking about a medical discharge. My world was crashing down all around me, that is until a buddy came over with a stack of magazines. Not to be too corny but yes one of them was Cycle Source. I had never seen this mag or knew bikes like the ones inside ever existed. It gave me new goals; I was going to ride again and it was going to be on one of these badass bikes. In order to do this I was going to walk and run again and I was going to pass my medical review so I could afford another bike. I am happy to say all those dreams came true.

    It may sound odd but getting into that wreck is one of the best things that could have ever happened to me. Without it I would not have been introduced into this culture. Once more my thought process advanced a little further and I realized how short life could have been. Not only do I not sweat the small stuff but some of life’s bigger hurdles do not seem so life altering anymore. I see people bitching and moaning about their petty problems, how hard they have it, that the world is out to get them or the constant FML’s left up on Facebook. I ponder how they would fare if they really knew the shit that life can hand out.

    To answer your original question, yes, I am truly happy. I was able to take some horrible shit and better myself from it. As my mother was told me “Cullan, you aways manage to fall into the biggest pile of shit imaginable…but you always come out smelling like a rose”.

    I don’t need more, I just need another adventure.

    Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah and Happy New Year.

  5. “We all work jobs that we hate to buy shit that we don’t need.” -Tyler.

    Kerri, This is an excellent bit to stop and reexamine life and all that’s in it, and thank you for sharing. I’m sure it was tough.

    Love and Respect,

  6. Same stuff that’s been on my mind lately. It’s like something’s not quite right in my life, to the point where I’m just not as happy as I should be. But, I’m also afraid of change in the sense that right now I KNOW that I’ll be able to support my family. Now I just have to figure out when life turned me into a chicken shit and what I’m going to do about it.

  7. Thank you Kerri, I really needed to read this this morning. I think it is to easy for me to loose track of what really counts this time of year. Actually I have been going through the motions as you say, for quite some time and not really caring about anything. I don’t know why I happened to read this, but I am glad I did, Thank you, Bob

  8. Life should not be a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a well preserved body, but, rather skiding in sideways, body totally worn out , Champagne in one hand, Choclate in the other,screaming “WOO HOO WHAT A RIde”!!!!

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